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Sucre
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Last Post: 11.07.2008, 15:46
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| Wednesday, 09. July 2008 at 13:56 |
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i have been dating a girl of 23 years of age for 10 months, we currently broke up coz of sum empty promises... i Neva slept with her before, and she is a virgin and her first time to date, she keeps complimenting me with lies and she does not respect me irrespective of how i keep quarelling with her.. in most cases she tries playing the blame game even though she is the one who is wrong..
y did we broke u then? we dont stay near ech other so this is a distance relationship, when i asked her 4 sex first two times she refused,but she promise to do it after 8 months... i did nt force her to tell me this and she even kept sending me seducing smses but came 8 months she refuses again and tells she was joking jst at that time when i asked her, i tried my best to beg her but she walked out of the room anyways... when i tried asking her why she is doing this to me she kept defending her self acting like the victim while i am the victim.... i dumped her for that, now she keeps telling me that she cant stop loving me, but she hurted me alot if she comes for a second chance must i really give it to her? after what she did.....
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sk
Number Posts: 26
Last Post: 17.08.2008, 12:43
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| Wednesday, 09. July 2008 at 20:48 |
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oh, bra Sucre, how can you dump the sister for not wanting to have sex with you? what if she is not ready? my advice is:You should learn to patient, give that sister a second chance and be patient, respect her decision and you will be happy at the end of the day. i 'm sure she will give in as soon as she is ready, remember sex should not be the first priority in a relationship..........if you really love each other, then the sex part of the relationship will come kind of Automatic. i was also wondering, how hungry are you (for sex) such that you even decided to end the relationship? lol....are you really starving? anyways, brother, think about it once more again.......good luck bro....
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Sucre
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| Wednesday, 09. July 2008 at 21:05 |
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thanks bra sk, that is real nice advice, but i cant be patient for 3 years man that is just too much at this age of mine for now.... may be if i was 16 yers old, anyways she thinks i am a fool...
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Nameless
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Last Post: 03.09.2008, 09:18
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| Thursday, 10. July 2008 at 10:03 |
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Sucre man just make sure when you get back together with your lady you remember to use a condom. the virgin story is hard to believe this days. Better be safe safe than sorry bro..
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maryj
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| Thursday, 10. July 2008 at 12:19 |
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sucre have you no shame. you said the gal sees you as a fool because she doesnt want to sleep with you, but the main fact is that you thought she was a fool when you wanted to only sleep with her, which she isnt and found a way to play you.or it could be that she is one of the girls that would prefer to know you first and make sure that you love her before she gives herself to you. i personaly would prefer only after marrige, perhaps she and i have the same view, ever asked her what she really wants? try that for a chage, instead of being selfish and thinking only of yourself and your sexual frustrations.be a man and think with the right end
no offence though,...you asked for advice
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PrincessDally
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Last Post: 05.09.2008, 15:45
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| Thursday, 10. July 2008 at 12:44 |
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hey Mary I like that.....you talking my language!!!!
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Nameless
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| Thursday, 10. July 2008 at 13:50 |
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Not bad advice there Mary, but what if you end-up not getting married and one thing marriage doesn't always end in happiness? But don't get me wrong it's your belief and you can believe in it as much as you want.
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mackly
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| Thursday, 10. July 2008 at 13:55 |
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surce, u re totaly hurted, but if u give her 2nd chance and she is jumping, take one decision and stay on ur peace..
good luck for second oppor.......
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maryj
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| Thursday, 10. July 2008 at 15:01 |
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theres no such thing as me not getting married, but i guess as you said it al depends on wht i believe(in God) and mine will be a happy one. by the way 4_sure, how will advice him then conserning his dilema
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Sucre
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| Thursday, 10. July 2008 at 16:42 |
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thanks maryj but dont u think u are being too harsh or may be u were not just in a good mood. its not that i see her as a fool becoz i wanted to sleep with her but that is part of a relationship at my age, i wonder if u a still a teenage gal??... so how long will she keep doing this then, if she was not ready for it she shud nt have started dating coz she knows exactly what goes in a relationship.. or u want to tell me she was loving me for fun.. okay if it is about marriage then i guess she have to wait until she finds sum1 who tells her that she wnt to marry her then from there onwards they can have sex as u prefer, but i just wonder if that will happen coz in nowadays u dont fall in luv with a person in march then marry that person in April right, unless u really knw her back ground... i wanted constructive advice but as u see it may be i must jst walk away and neva look back ....
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maryj
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| Thursday, 10. July 2008 at 17:32 |
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you didnt want "constructive advice" as you put it, you simply wanted to hear what you thought was right.in other words, you wanted to hear what you wanted to hear, but see it as it is,..an advice, take it or live it. but nontheless i agree with the fact that if she is like me, then she should've said so from the get go. coz you dont seem to want to practice self control for too long.
on a lighter note...
i also think you should just forget about her, you two dont seem to see eye to eye, so let bygones be bygones and find someone esle.but perhaps next time also know wht you want in a relationship so that no one will be confused at the end if something like this happens.Communication is the key to lack of confusing piple in a weired situation......!!!!
p.s do enjoy yourself and have a blessed year and beyond ne!!
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Nameless
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| Friday, 11. July 2008 at 08:58 |
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I fully agree with your point of view Marj. As for Sucre don't be angry with a person coz she don't wanna sleep with you if you love them you should respect their choices and if their choices is not want you want then move on with peace and look for what you believe. Don't be harsh otherwise it will sound as if you are forcing her to do want you want. I know there are some girls out there who won't mind getting down with yaaa.
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Sucre
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| Friday, 11. July 2008 at 15:46 |
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blah blah maryj the question was must i give her a second chance? i am nt the one afta her she is the one after me the gal u claim to be like u... come down to earth.. i dont wnt to knw, if what i did was right, as u put it nee.. u are biased no wonder y u re strtd making mistakes TAKE IT OR LIVE IT well i will LIVE IT 4 U NEE, nxt tym advice yo chickens like this waaa case closed i dont need anything from u anymore, if u are a fool i dare to reply to this afta telling u this... blah,blah, blah
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maryj
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| Friday, 11. July 2008 at 16:36 |
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a fool is a person that does not like correction.i take up your dare not caring what you think of me. grow up little boy no wonder the girl is playing around with you. your too childish.the BLAH BLAH BLAH words you seem to fency is showing your ignorance for mature things. i think you must first concentrate on growing up before you even think of such issues as dating..and sex for that matter should not be in your mind.
but hey, its your life, screwing it up is realy up to.
no hard feelings Sucre, but perhaps you need a second look in the mirror to figure your life out.
im here for you, even when you dont want me.
and i still say have Blessed day. and calm down,lifes too short to get angry with me,whom you hardly know.
chill!!!
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Vero
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| Friday, 11. July 2008 at 16:59 |
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Peopl dont be so rude. Why cant we learn to help one another in a good manner? We all know what he did was bad but he is not looking for blames now. we should feel lucky cos we have friends or rather chat mates to share life with and believe me we learned a lot from our mistakes.
Sucre? if both of you still have feelings for each other and you feel like you still need one another then there is nothing that can limit you from seeing her. I suggest taking her back is not a problem and once you did then look at the situation at a start. we ladies have some few differences, like she said (sex after marriage), perhaps she have the same believe or maybe she was just checking you up. I think the best way would be to freely ask her what she really planned to do.
Good luck my dear
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maryj
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| Friday, 11. July 2008 at 17:48 |
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yes vero, i agree, i think i was too harsh towards sucre
so sucre... i apologise. forgive me for being too harsh,i was just hyper this couple of days
forgive me okc yah
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Vero
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| Monday, 14. July 2008 at 08:57 |
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I like that Maryi, thanks for your understanding my dear. Lets just work together in order to achieve one goal.
Keep up!
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